May 16, 2011

Leadership Limerick: Good Discussions

Every Monday, I offer a leadership limerick, highlighting an idea or strategy about effective leadership in limerick form.

Conversations can often get tense
When others' reasoning doesn't make sense

If you can keep an open mind
You very often will then find

There's no need to go on the offense

It's tempting when you disagree strongly with another person's opinion to go on the attack, to try and win the discussion and get others to adopt your position.  While that may indeed be an appropriate choice at some point, it's not a helpful default position.

You're better served by first learning more about others' positions, listening non-judgmentally in an effort to gather more information.  In doing so you often gain not only a better sense of what they believe to be important, but often discover some common ground where you both agree.  That's almost always a more productive place to begin resolving your differences.

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