August 6, 2013

Advice on Giving Advice

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"Here's what I would do ... "

Sounds like you are about to offer someone some advice.  Before you do, stop.

Stop and ask yourself if you're about to finish that sentence with advice based on your experiences, your interests, your values, your needs, and your aspirations.

If you are, it might be best if you say nothing.

The best advice isn't what would work for us.
The best advice is tied to the person being advised.

So proceed with caution unless you're about to start off your advice-giving with this:
If I understand you correctly, what matters most to you right now is ______________.  Based on that, it seems to me that you might want to ___________________.
Tie the content of your advice
to the context of the person being advised.

It's often easier said than done.

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