A Little Advice on Giving Advice

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"Here's what I would do ... "

Sounds like you are about to offer someone some advice.  Before you do, stop.

Stop and ask yourself if you're about to finish that sentence with advice based on your experiences, your interests, your values, your needs, and your aspirations.

If you are, it might be best if you say nothing.

Good advice isn't what would work for us.
Good advice is tied to the person being advised.

So proceed with caution unless you're about to start off your advice-giving with this:
If I understand you correctly, what matters most to you right now is ______________.  Based on that, I wonder if that you might want to ___________________.
Tie the content of your advice
to the context of the person being advised.

It's often easier said than done.

P.S. Sometimes the best advice is to offer none at all, but instead help surface more information so others can make a better decision.


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